One of the other medical issues we have dealt with – which came seemingly out of the blue – is ECC, or Early Childhood Caries (cavities).
When N was 2, I had noticed some orange-ish brown spots on several of his teeth and took him to the dentist. The dentist had a look and felt that they were stains from his iron drops (which can turn the teeth temporarily greyish black and spotty if on plaque). Here’s a great chart I found showing the appearance of various stages of tooth decay:
The next year, the spots were still there, and there was a part on the back of one of his top front teeth that felt jagged and had an orangey brown spot as well. I knew it didn’t look good, and so we went back to the dentist. She thought it was a “superficial cavity”, and that he had 3 of them (the front tooth, as well as two back molars). She told me she could just buff them out with the polisher, no freezing, so I told her to go ahead. N was brave, confident, and did just fine. At first. Until she got out the drill, and without freezing, proceeded to drill and fill the first cavity. While N was screaming and screaming and they were holding him down.
I was horribly traumatized.
N was horribly traumatized.
E, who was also there, was traumatized.
We didn’t fill the other 2 that day. We went home, talked about it, played dentist, and talked about how she did the wrong thing. She should have stopped. She should have used freezing. She didn’t listen to him, and that was wrong. (It is important to affirm the child’s experience and feelings, for resilience)
We went to a different dentist for a consultation. He also felt that N had 2 small cavities remaining in his molars, but that we could watch and wait for a few months to give him time to settle down about dentists. In the meantime, we researched remineralization for teeth and discovered an awful lot about dental decay that your dentist won’t tell you:
- Dental decay and gum disease are basically infections – they are caused by an overgrowth of pathogenic bacteria (Streptococcus mutans, or S. mutans). Your mouth has a normal flora which can keep S. mutans in check, but you can “catch” S. mutans infection by sharing utensils, straws, cups, kissing etc with someone who has an overgrowth of it.
- Dental decay and gum disease can be prevented by selectively killing off S. mutans and allowing other normal flora to repopulate your mouth
- S. mutans is killed with hydrogen peroxide, baking soda, alcohol (think mouthwashes), and alcohol sugars (xylitol and erythritol). The best choice to use in children is alcohol sugars (as ingesting hydrogen peroxide, baking soda, or alcohol is not a good idea!) Bonus: xylitol and erythritol are lower calorie than regular sugar, have a lower glycemic index, as well as selectively inhibiting S. mutans (that bacteria can’t feed on it like regular sugar). At higher doses they can increase bowel motility (a good side effect for kids who struggle with constipation). Aim for xylitol or erythritol to bathe your teeth and mouth 5+ times per day (Strive for Five). It is available in candies, gum, and toothpastes, but the cheapest way is to buy a bag of the sugar and either eat the sugar or dissolve it in water and rinse with it.
- Plaque is a biofilm of bacteria and their waste products. It takes about 8 hours for the biofilm to form and the acid to start etching your teeth (the earliest start of a cavity). Hence, if you brush your teeth more frequently than every 8 hours, you disrupt this biofilm process.
- Remineralization can be promoted with fluoride (pastes, polishes), but fluoride can cause upset stomach or white spots on teeth if too much is ingested. A better option is called MI paste, which contains bioavailable calcium and phosphorus. MI Paste Plus also contains fluoride and is great for adults. MI paste can be found at many dentist offices, without a prescription. It is about $20 per tube (CDN). To use, apply a pea-sized amount to the border between the gums and teeth, and smear right on any orange-brown spots right before sleeping (you want it to sit there as long as possible). I did it after my son had fallen asleep, and just rubbed along his gumlines. Apply nightly for at least 4-6 weeks.
- We have also found a great mouthwash which includes both xylitol and fluoride, if your child knows how to spit it out – X-Pur Opti-Rinse. It comes in 0.2% fluoride (mint) and 0.05% fluoride (berry) flavors.
- Early stage cavities, in the enamel layer, can be healed in this way (remineralization pastes, fluoride pastes, xylitol or erythritol 5x a day – “Strive for Five”). It is more difficult to heal cavities in the grooves of molars, as bacteria can hide out there easier.
- Here’s a link to some great preventative mouth care: Dr. Ellie’s Mouth Care System
We went back in about 5 months, and the dentist said we should try to fill the spots (this time on his back molars). Unfortunately, the spots on N’s molars were past the enamel layer into the dentin. However, the orangey spots that had been on several other teeth had disappeared or turned dark brown/black and shiny (inactive/healed).
We booked an appointment with sedation (Versed (midazolam) drink). The sedation went OK, but he never did get sleepy. The dentist started to drill, and N started getting anxious as he recalled the last drilling fiasco. I asked for the nitrous oxide. The hygienist fiddled around with the machine for 45 minutes before admitting that the machine hadn’t been tested and was malfunctioning.
Meanwhile, the dentist was behind schedule, and started getting mad at N. He quickly placed a filling in the hole he had drilled, and N was very upset.
It took about 6 hours for the Versed to wear off, and N was a crazy person. Peed his pants (it makes your muscles relax), freaked out, wouldn’t sleep, and basically acted like he was way overdosed on caffeine. He yelled, raged, threw himself on the floor, flopped around. Luckily, I don’t think he remembered it, as that is one of Versed’s side effects. I didn’t get any Versed, so I remember the whole thing!!!
N still had one filling to go, and his new filling didn’t look like it was done very well (I could see dark spots beside and through it), so we ended up going to a third dentist. This dentist specializes in “sleep” dentistry. We had a 5-minute consultation, in which he grandiosely suggested that N had a mouthful of cavities. N had general anesthesia dentistry and got a thorough cleaning, fluoride treatment and SEVEN fillings. Silver amalgam ones, as they apparently are more durable, and we didn’t want to go through this again (even though I am on the fence about silver amalgam and replaced my own with porcelain).
In several months I am taking him to a fourth dentist, whom I will get to review the x-rays to see if he agrees that there were actually 7 cavities. I am a little suspicious that the drill and fill dentist was a little overzealous with fillings, but – we really had no other choice at that point.
UPDATE 1: Fourth dentist reviewed N’s x-rays and showed me there were one, possibly two, cavities between his molars. He also needed two surface molar fillings. So in total, he needed 3-4 fillings, not 7. It’s so frustrating to get sub-optimal treatment and to be so helpless in your own child’s care, even when you’re trying to be an advocate. I’m glad that N was asleep for the fillings, and I am *super* glad that they are his baby teeth, but it does make me wary of dentists.
Case in point, this fourth dentist was going to give ME 7 fillings (replacing some of my old ones, claiming they were leaking). I didn’t feel comfortable for some reason and went for a second opinion (Fifth dentist). The Fifth dentist took bitewings and informed me that NO fillings were necessary – that they would just be cosmetic to remove staining from food, coffee, tea. He explained that intact teeth are always stronger than any filling material and it is best to leave them intact as much as possible. I am wondering how many of MY many fillings were in fact, actually necessary! This is something to advocate for your children and for yourselves going ahead! Get second opinions, try the xylitol and MI paste, and watch and wait if it’s not obvious!
UPDATE 2: N’s front teeth with the front orange pre-cavity discoloration have mostly remineralized following the above protocol off and on for a year and a half now. No further cavities.
UPDATE 3: 3 years later using xylitol toothpastes, no progression of dental issues, no new cavities.
Difficult experiences in life often challenge us to reflect on and examine our lives more deeply than we otherwise would. Yes, there is grief, and anger, and regret, and frustration. But there is also courage, and hope, and compassion, and purpose. If you are struggling with purpose, and an emptiness inside, then it might be possible that God is challenging you right now, through this struggle, about your life’s calling. Perhaps all the struggles I have faced simply had their purpose in leading YOU here – to my story. Perhaps God allowed all these things to happen in my life so that YOU might be offered this chance to know Him. If so, one heart won, and one soul saved for eternity is worth all the sacrifice, pain, and challenge. YOU are worth it.
I strongly believe that in this life, nothing happens by accident or coincidence – things aren’t determined by fate or luck (good or bad). I believe there is an overarching story – a beautiful picture of love, loss, and redemption – and that there is Someone who cares and is in control. You are already a part of this story, whether you know or believe it or not. While the end of the story has already been written, your own part lays open before you for you to choose your ultimate destiny. Perhaps our coinciding struggles have been finely orchestrated to lead you to this one moment: The Bridge to God.
“Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. The Father of compassion, the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ flow into our lives, so also should the comfort of Christ overflow.” (2 Corinthians 1:3-5)